Archive for the ‘Dating’ Category

Calling all Single + Married Women: It’s Been Advice Month!

Wednesday, January 13th, 2016

I’ve been asked to share my positive thoughts on love for a few publications lately, so in case any of these stories might appeal to you, here they are…

1) First, I loved contributing to this piece called “That Single Life” in the brand new January/February 2016 issue of Women’s Health magazine.

WomensHealthSINGLE The Women’s Health features real women who have bucked the coupledom standards by doing things like buying a house single, having a baby single, and traveling single.

I spoke with writer Faye Brennan about why single women can rock whatever it is they damn want, which is the entire mindset behind my book Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match (Running Press).

Pick up the Jan/Feb issue of Women’s Health to read the full piece about “That Single Life,” but here’s my advice in part #3 about why it’s healthy to be “The Jet Setter” who is traveling solo:

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2) For the story Dating as a Single Parent…If You Dare, I offered some advice for single mothers who are having a difficult time in their dating lives with writer Christine Coppa, who is a single mom herself. You can read the full story here on that one here on the USA Today Network’s Asbury Park Press site, but here’s a small snapshot of some my advice when it comes to where to meet your potential partners:

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3) I also offered some advice for Woman’s Day magazine, about the 9 Important Signs Your Marriage Can Be Saved. I talked to the magazine about the positive signs of recognizing that your behavior might be affecting your partner’s behavior or when you both recognize how much you appreciate your family time. You can read the full piece here on Woman’s Day, but here, again, is a small snapshot of some of my advice:

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—Amy

Love & Happiness Advice for Single Parents

Wednesday, March 4th, 2015

I’ve been interviewed a number of times lately for a few different kinds of stories, but one I come back to pretty often: dating, love and happiness advice for single moms and dads—some of the hardest working people in life-business. Here is some of my love, happiness and dating advice for parents going it alone.

1: How to Deal with Your Ex’s New Partner

First, some advice for single moms dealing with her ex’s new partner that appeared on Yahoo News. The wonderfully honest story, by writer Chrissi Coppa, was called Tom Brady’s Ex Deserves Praise for her Gracious Co-Parenting Tweet, and I offered my insight on what it meant that Bridget Moynahan tweeted a congratulations to the Patriots following their win, and what that meant for her son and their family.

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2. How to Date as a Single Parent

I also offered some of my dating tips for single parents for a piece that appeared in Parenting.com and CNN.com among others. 

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I wish I could give a free copy of Meeting Your Half-Orange to every last single mom or single dad in the country, because I truly believe that it could help shift how they feel in a meaningful way.

The way I see it, when you are feeling overwhelmed and down on yourself or your circumstances—which is so often the case with single parents who don’t have even .001 second to think about themselves because they are so focused on their child/children—the best thing you can do for yourself emotionally is find a way to adjust your perspective and feelings so that you can get through each day in a happier place. The more in control, positive, hopeful and happy you feel, the better a person, a parent and a provider you can be.

—Amy

My Happy Love App

Wednesday, February 11th, 2015

Okay. So. I’ve updated my iPhone app Half-Orange Optimisms. And in addition to making sure it works on all the iOS platforms and the newest iPhones, I’ve added a whopping 150 *brand new* thoughts to it. Which means the app now has more than 250 positive ideas to happy up your love life. Can you take it? I can barely take it.

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You can find out more about the Half-Orange Optimisms app on the iTunes store. If you already have the app, be sure to update it to Version 2.0! And if you don’t have it, check it out. Because these are all original words of mine, and I wrote every single positive idea with happy love in mind.

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Do you sometimes feel discouraged with dating and love? If you could use a pep talk every now and then about yourself and your dating life, Half-Orange Optimisms is here.

 Your “half-orange” (the translation of the Spanish term mi media naranja) describes your sweetheart and perfect other half. And the path to yours can be paved using dating optimism. Use them as a companion piece to the book Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match by Amy Spencer, or just dive into dating optimism on your own!

These are not reprints of quotes or lines you’ve read before. Half-Orange Optimisms are freshly original tips and insights that provide the dating optimism you want on demand! Like a Magic Eight Ball of love wisdom, they’re the words of dating and life encouragement you need to hear at the time you need to hear them. 

Just ask for some sweet orange guidance, then shake the phone for the dose you need to turn on your positivity and draw the right person straight to you. And when an Optimism really hits home, email it to yourself or a good friend for an added boost.



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• Over 250 original, unique Optimisms written by Amy Spencer.
• Get a new Optimism every time you shake.
• Optimisms are more than just inspiring quotes—they provide actionable suggestions and ideas for improving your relationship point of view.
• A bright animated 3D orange delivers your message.
• Email your favorite Optimisms to yourself or a friend. Or save one to paste in your Notes app, a post or a tweet! (Note: There is not a Saved Favorites page within the app.)
• Optimisms are for all singles—women and men, single or divorced, of every age. If you are seeking your other half or just want reminders to make the most of a love you have, these words are for you.

Your thoughts about dating can change your love life forever. Let Half-Orange Optimisms help you put your thoughts in a positive state of mind. Visit amyspencer.com to contact Amy and learn more about this app, as well as the books and the optimism that goes with it.

What’s New in Version 2.0

Big fixes and updates with this one! Cleaned out all the bugs and freshened it up, so it’s now working perfectly and up to date for all iOS and iPhones from the 4 on. Plus: I’ve added a whopping 150 *brand new* Optimisms in this version, so the app now offers more than 250 fresh, inspiring thoughts to enhance your gorgeous life even more.

–Amy

NOW Magazine & The Happy Life Checklist

Thursday, February 27th, 2014

This week’s issue of NOW Magazine in the UK (it’s like the People magazine of Great Britain) was kind enough to ask my advice for a fun feature on how to do newly single style right.

The story features beautiful British  TV star Sam Faier (of TOWIE and, recently, Celebrity Big Brother) who’d recently broken up with her TOWIE co-star Joey Essex. And she seemed to be doing the breakup makeover — a.k.a. the “break over” — just right. (So right, in fact, there are rumors the two of them may be dating again!) And though she’s now talking about how she is fighting back against her Crohn’s disease, she is certainly doing it with a healthy, happy glow and a confident style.

Here’s what I had to say about it, based on the positive ideas in my new book The Happy Life Checklist: 654 Simple Ways to Find Your Bliss:

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When it comes to your break over look, just remember  it’s all about you: the authentic, confident, dress-for-your-own-comfort you.

To keep up with other positive style reminders follow Alison Tay @TheStyleEditor on Twitter, the awesomely bright style editor of NOW magazine. And while you’re at it, follow @NOWMag on Twitter, too!

—Amy

Are You Ready for The Next Happiness Challenge?

Monday, January 27th, 2014

Well, The Happiness Challenge I created with Glamour.com is still going strong. And I’m so grateful to all of you who have commented and Tweeted and sent me notes about how it’s going for you. Nothing makes me happier than hearing you’ve been inspired to live a better life.

Today, we just posted Challenge #4! Each challenge is built around the idea that if you embrace all the best aspects of yourself and your life in a balanced way, you will end up feeling stronger, more loving, more confident, more fulfilled and happier all-around. 

If you’re just starting today and want to take the challenge on (do it!), here are the challenges so far.

Challenge #1: Bravery

Challenge #2: Self-worth

Challenge #3: Independence

Today’s Challenge #4: Generosity

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Next week is the final challenge—and the sweetest and the easiest of all.

It’s not too late to join in, because there’s no such thing as being too late for happiness. Every single day, it’s up to us if we want to embrace a happy, fulfilled life in the small moments we face, minute after minute, hour after hour.

This is your year, remember. So take the steps to show life you mean it.

#happinesschallenge #gethappy

—Amy

P.S. If you’re enjoying this positive, proactive approach to life, pre-order your copy of The Happy Life Checklist so you can keep the challenge going all year long.

Start My Happiness Challenge!

Tuesday, January 7th, 2014

The countdown is on for my new book, The Happy Life Checklist! It will be on shelves February 4. But I wanted to get the happy going a little early with a fun something I’m really excited about!

I created a month-long Happiness Challenge with glamour.com. For five weeks, I’m going to offer one new challenge a week. If you complete each week’s mission, you will feel more adventurous, less stressed, fulfilled, confident, joyful, kick ass and all-around happy. Sounds good, right?  Then join me in the #happinesschallenge! Seriously, I’m going to do it right along with you.

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You’ll find your first mission at glamour.com. (And next Monday, you’ll get challenge #2.) Check it out and tell me there if you’re up for the fun, and how you think you might complete your first challenge—then share the challenge with your friends! If you take it on, share your plans with me on Facebook, or tweet me at @datingoptimist on Twitter, or Instagram your plans with me @amyspencerla, or Vine me a video @amyspencer on what you plan to do.

However you join in the #happinesschallenge, do it! Your life is no small thing. You can make big changes by taking little steps like this along the way. Make this your year.

So what do you think? Are you ready to get happy?

—Amy

#happinesschallenge #gethappy #happylifechecklist

You can also pre-order The Happy Life Checklist today and get a jump on your happy year!

The Happy Life Checklist: 654 Ways to Find Your Bliss (Perigee, February 2014)

The Happy Life Checklist: 654 Simple Ways to Find Your Bliss (Perigee, 2014)

Some dating optimism for single parents!

Monday, August 22nd, 2011

What do you do when you’re a single parent and you get asked out by someone who doesn’t want to get married and have more kids like you do?

Well, if you’re Christine Coppa, who wrote about her recent dating experience in a new post for Parenting.com, you tell him you’re not interested. What do I think of her move? Find out:

Read her story, a shout-out for Meeting Your Half-Orange and my expert take on it all as a relationship optimist!

—Amy

NATURAL HEALTH and Half-Oranges

Friday, February 18th, 2011

I loved this recent mention of Meeting Your Half-Orange in Natural Health magazine. In the story below, “Health nut seeks same” by Maureen Healy, I offered my advice on why finding someone with similar interests can enhance your relationship from the inside-out—the piece then shares suggestions of some online dating sites that cater to particular lifestyles.

Here’s to a naturally healthy half-orange love life!

—Amy

The Denver Post: How to Use Dating Optimism in the New Year

Wednesday, February 16th, 2011

Recently, I contributed to a story in The Denver Post called New Year, New Love: The Time is Right for Dating, by Sheba R. Wheeler. In it, I gave her some of my thoughts on how to keep your eyes looking more positively on the prize of love at the start of a new year.

One of my contributions included this:

“Take a break. If you’ve been dating full throttle without success, it can begin to feel like work and become a source of frustration and pressure. “Now suddenly you are going out into the world with all this energy that says you are tired, you are over it, but do you still want to date me?” says Spencer. “Who wants to date that?” Take a break to reconnect with yourself and remember what’s good and lovable about you.”

If you liked that, go to the New Year, New Love article in The Denver Post, or click on the image below.

—Amy

Psychologies Magazine features “Dating Optimism”

Tuesday, February 15th, 2011

What a great honor this month:

A fabulous journalist named Suzy Greaves wrote about the concept of dating optimism in a three-page feature called “The Optimist’s Guide to Dating” in the most recent issue of Psychologies magazine—which is like England’s version of America’s Psychology Today.

And my book Meeting Your Half-Orange—with it’s science-based focus on the neuropsychology of thinking positively and the benefits of being optimistic about love—fit right in.

Also fun: One of my positive comments about how I believe you should be picky in love was featured as the story’s pull quote, a great reminder when it comes to what you’re looking for: “You have my full permission to stop dating men you don’t find smart, interesting or physically attractive.” For more positive doses of dating advice, check out my blog, TheDatingOptimist.com.

Pick up the copy of the latest issue of Psychologies if you’re in the U.K. or check out the piece here:

—Amy