Archive for May, 2009

Little Known Advice About the Gym Pick-Up

Thursday, May 28th, 2009

I recently provided some advice for AOL’s Digital City about some of The Do’s and Don’ts of Making a Move at the Gym—you know, where you’re usually more focused on making muscles.

It’s been a while since I’ve hit on (or been hit on by) someone in a place so sweaty, but thinking about it for this piece brought back some classics—including the time a guy left a message for me with the front desk receptionist with his number, asking me to call him. As if the idea that he could presumably lift more than five pounds was enough of a draw to get me to dial a guy I’d never even seen. As curious as I was, it gave me that same creepy feeling we women have when a man at a bar sends a drink over…then refuses to let the bartender reveal who sent it. I’m afraid there’s a fine line between sweet “I’m your secret admirer” moves to sociopathic “I’m waaaaaaaching youuuuuu” ones.

But gym meet-ups can be successful if you take and make the right approach.

So if you have your eye on a treadmill runner next to yours, check out my gym-based tips for a few ideas on how to work that out, too.

Join “The Dating Optimist” on Twitter!

Wednesday, May 27th, 2009

I’ll be sharing my full-length homegrown secret of how to use dating optimism to find your perfect match when my book, Meeting Your Half-Orange, hits stores on February 22 (Running Press). But who wants to wait until then to start thinking positive about finding the love of your life?


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My, what a little revelation can do…

Tuesday, May 26th, 2009

My goodness. It’s amazing how one small statement can seem like a really big deal.

During my interview with Brooke Shields for this month’s Health magazine, I asked her what we ask a lot of the cover stars: “What is your biggest health regret?” Her answer was surprising and insightful:

“Not learning to love the way I looked earlier. And I think I would have had sex a lot earlier! [Laughs.] I think I would have lost my virginity earlier than I did at 22. I had the public and all this pressure, and I wish I had just gotten it over with in the beginning when it was sort of OK. I think I would have been much more in touch with myself. I think I wouldn’t have had issues with weight—I carried this protective 20 pounds [in college]. It was all connected. And to me, that’s a health regret.”

More surprising than that, however? The swell of media that picked up on it and turned it into a huge swell of an admission! All the major mags and papers picked up on it. Some examples:


Us Weekly: Brooke Shields: “I Regret Losing My Virginity at 22”




 Page Six: “Brooke Shields Lost Virginity at 22”





HuffPoBrooke Shields: “I Lost My Virginity at 22”




PeopleBrooke Shields Regrets Not Losing Virginity Sooner




Fox News: Brooke Shields: I Would’ve Lost My Virginity Earlier



        Daily News: Actress and former model Brooke Shields reveals that she didn’t lose her virginity until she was 22


I’m glad it’s getting Health and Brooke’s causes the attention they deserve. And I appreciated how honest and forthright she was in the interview, as so many stars are gun-shy about just being themselves. But of course I hope this doesn’t end up being an “answer regret” for her going forward…

A Lunch with Brooke

Monday, May 25th, 2009

I had a great lunch with Brooke Shields last month. We met at Le Pain Quotidien in Brentwood in 100 degree weather, where I interviewed her for Health magazine. Somehow, we still both ordered bowls of soup. Go figure.

The result: June‘s Health cover story.

She had a lot to say about staying healthy, the best marriage advice she ever got—and the advice she thinks is just plain wrong. I must say, there’s some good stuff in there…

For one, Brooke talks about a skin cancer scare she had recently, which led to those Coppertone ads she’s been doing, holding up her own UV skin scan for NutraShield. (Brave woman.) And she also talks about her surprising health regret.

This is the second time I’ve interviewed her, and she’s a very open, honest and fun interview. She really makes you feel like she’s the headline of the story inside: “The Girlfriend Next Door.”

Check it out, peeps!

All About Scent and Attraction…

Wednesday, May 13th, 2009

Today marks the beginning of a new project I’m working on with and Axe deodorant body spray. They’ve launched a new Scent & Attraction channel on the men’s advice site, full of all sorts of scentsible tips by yours truly. I’m on the channel’s expert panel, and hereby at your advice service!

The Scent & Attraction Homepage

But the very best item on today’s launch page? Why, my piece of course.

It’s called Sub-$30 Date Ideas, which covers about a dozen ways to create a great date with very little dough. And if you keep it under $10, you can just give your date twenty bucks to sniff with delight! (Surely that will cement a second date.)

In any case, go check it out. Sure, why not right now? Seriously, I’ll be here when you’re done. And going forward, I’ll be a regular contributor to the Axe channel on AskMen, so be sure to check out my (life-altering, love-transcending, remarkably wise and inspiring!) stories every now and then.